Q:whats wrong with truscum?
Quite a few things. Historically, self-ID’d truscum/”true transsexuals” have:
- Denied/disrespected nonbinary identities (though I have come across some self-ID’d truscum nonbinary people)
- Policed the genders of other people based on constructed gender roles (e.g. “You can’t enjoy sewing if you’re a man” or “You must wear makeup to be a woman”). These included sexual orientation as well in the past. More on how these “standards” have changed in a bit.
- Bullied young trans people who are just figuring things out, which can be absolutely devastating in an already tumultuous time
- Spread false information about the medical aspects of transitioning, typically to scare others who are considering transitioning
- Blamed the testosterone shortage on DAFAB nonbinary people who are taking it, an outright lie
- Set arbitrary “standards” for being trans—they recently considered femme trans men or butch trans women to be “not actual men/women.” These standards have changed to become “easier” over the years (most recently it’s that you must have dysphoria to be trans and seem to no longer propagate gender-essentialist ideas), which essentially means they were meaningless in the first place. (My personal beliefs are that dysphoria is fluid in the first place and can change based on context/the individual in question; it doesn’t always manifest itself in specific ways and can sometimes be difficult to describe. Trouble sleeping or paying attention, for instance, can be due to dysphoria BUT it might be because of something else. There’s no such thing as a “kilodysphoreter” to empirically measure how dysphoric someone may or may not be feeling, so it’s meaningless to say that someone “must” be dysphoric.)
- Propagated racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. beliefs (denying the existence of NB identities is inherently racist as these gender IDs are frequently culturally significant to various cultures; I have also seen trans male truscum claim that sexism isn’t real/a big deal)
- Essentially tolerated/accepted claims of noted TERFs like Janice Raymond and her ilk.
- Claimed that inclusive trans-activism that isn’t gender-essentialist has set back the movement, when typically these folks don’t do *anything* as far as trans-activism goes.
I’m sure I’m missing some stuff that ought to be mentioned, and these are based on mine and a few others’ observations of truscum blogs. Hope that sheds some light on your question, anon. That’s all that’ll be said on the matter here; I’m not keen on flooding anyone’s dashes with truscum-related asks.
Q:(Not really a question but?) it really annoys me that there are so many people that support trans women, non binary, Genderfluid, etc but hate trans men. It's good to support trans women and stuff but then blatantly hating on trans men? It just peeves me
Yeah, I personally agree with this. There’s no doubt in my mind that there are groups of trans men who are deserving of criticism (e.g. truscum and other essentialists) but to paint trans men with a broad brush is hurtful and only creates divides in an already-divided movement (the name for this is “horizontal hostility,” which is when members of the same group are hostile towards each other, and both truscum and “transmisandrists” do this). It’s absolutely true that by and large trans women experience the brunt of transphobia, but that doesn’t negate the problems trans men face (such as invisibility, lack of access to reproductive health care, dealing with perceived sexism/misogyny when being perceived as a woman, and not to mention a slew of others that exist in other countries with very strict roles for people based on ASAB or the specific problems that trans men of color, trans men with disabilities, and trans men who aren’t heterosexual face).
I get the sense that this answer will crack open a can of gross stuff so for the sake of everyone following the blog, this is all I’m gonna say about it.
Q:So this trans mtf kid at my school goes by emma now. Which im totally cool with other then hes a douche. But what reallly aggravates me is she tricks guys into sleeping with her then brags. When the guys are 100%%straight and didnt now who she was.
#misgendering though that might be a typo. #transphobia just in case.
I have very strong doubts over the legitimacy of this ask. The idea of trans women “tricking” straight men into sleeping with them is a pretty violent and untrue stereotype that contributes to the deaths of trans women. Secondly… those guys are still straight, if they identify that way, because they’re sleeping with a trans woman, if what you’re saying is true.
Why are you sending this to us in the first place, anon?
Q:Today when I put on a "real" binder for the first time(I always used things that didn't work well but I just made one that works well enough today) I didn't feel ecstatic like I thought I would. I just felt less uncomfortable, and then when I took it off I felt more uncomfortable than usual. Don't most people feel really happy when they put on a better binder for the first time?
There isn’t one ultimate, “correct” way to feel after we accomplish things for our transition. Everybody experiences things differently for a wide variety of reasons. To speak from personal experience: A lot of trans folks talk about how ecstatic and perfect they felt after having top surgery. After mine, I just felt a quiet sort of relief; nothing remotely close to “ecstasy.” My point is that no feelings are incorrect or “wrong” to have when we first put on a binder/falsies or take our first dose of HRT, and so on, because nobody reacts the exact same way to something.
Q:Hi, I was wondering if this was normal. I'm a trans guy. But I like the female gender role better than the male. I like how girls are treated in general, I would just dress more feminine but I don't like how feminine guys are treated or feminine guys clothes. Does that make sense? I don't know why I feel like this or what to do about it. Because I don't want to be seen as a girl, I just want to be treated the way most girls are without actually having people see me as one.
Since gender identity is separate from our preferences for how we’re treated/what we want to do, whether or not you prefer one gender role over the other has very little bearing on your gender identity. Anyone here have a similar experience to Anon?
Q:For the record, button up shirts are fantastic for toning down your chest (especially when binding)!
Button-up shirts were fantastic when I had to bind, and they also work really well at making my hips less pronounced, even with the shirt tucked in.
Q:Senior pictures anon: I go to school in Texas and I'm not out at school but when I asked to wear the tux, they had absolutely no problem letting me wear it.
Q:for guys clothes idk if they meant fit right, if they are smaller they may have some luck in the older 'boys' section rather then 'mens' they have shirts over there that are very similar style in a lot of the stores, not just the obvious character shirts ext from the boys section (though i've found a couple of those i got bc some of them look cool. lol), 'husky' type bottoms, dress shirts from there also fit a lot of smaller guys better and are usually MUCH cheaper as well as dress shoes
I also really like cargo pants. They do wonders for my silhouette and I have at least six pockets to use, heheh.
Q:many second hand stores have just a 't-shirt' section it's odd but sometimes parents take that better you could say t-shirts are easier if you're active ext. also, when i first came out i would have t-shirts ext. i could change into at places that were accepting of me that my parents wouldn't be around. a youth group as well as some friend's houses just to make me more comfortable, even though it wasn't all the time it helped, had friends lend me shirts, buy cloths for bday gifts, trade w/ them
Yup, the T-shirt sections tend to be a mishmash of tees cut in different styles, but by and large they’re unisex and have a variety of designs.