Q:To the anon wanting to buy men's clothes: I used the "boys clothes are more comfortable / softer / fit looser / have nicer pockets / are more modest" excuse FOREVER with my family. More comfortable always seemed to work for me.
Q:For the record, button up shirts are fantastic for toning down your chest (especially when binding)!
Button-up shirts were fantastic when I had to bind, and they also work really well at making my hips less pronounced, even with the shirt tucked in.
Q:Senior pictures anon: I go to school in Texas and I'm not out at school but when I asked to wear the tux, they had absolutely no problem letting me wear it.
Q:for guys clothes idk if they meant fit right, if they are smaller they may have some luck in the older 'boys' section rather then 'mens' they have shirts over there that are very similar style in a lot of the stores, not just the obvious character shirts ext from the boys section (though i've found a couple of those i got bc some of them look cool. lol), 'husky' type bottoms, dress shirts from there also fit a lot of smaller guys better and are usually MUCH cheaper as well as dress shoes
I also really like cargo pants. They do wonders for my silhouette and I have at least six pockets to use, heheh.
Q:many second hand stores have just a 't-shirt' section it's odd but sometimes parents take that better you could say t-shirts are easier if you're active ext. also, when i first came out i would have t-shirts ext. i could change into at places that were accepting of me that my parents wouldn't be around. a youth group as well as some friend's houses just to make me more comfortable, even though it wasn't all the time it helped, had friends lend me shirts, buy cloths for bday gifts, trade w/ them
Yup, the T-shirt sections tend to be a mishmash of tees cut in different styles, but by and large they’re unisex and have a variety of designs.
Q:To the senior pictures anon, I know is Georgia was made to wear the dress even though I openly identify as FTM. I tried to get to wear the suit but I had no legal standing to force the company and school to let me wear it
Q:Do you have any clue why people "gender police"? and say "Oh if you don't have this certain feeling you aren't Trans* enough."? I just never understood it because you don't really know how anybody else is feeling unless your them and figuring yourself out is confusing as it is.
I think it comes from internalized transphobia and respectability politics. The fact of the matter is that the existence of nonbinary people, femme trans men, butch trans women, or any other gender ID/expression that isn’t “socially acceptable” has very little to do with whether or not the legal/medical community takes us seriously (and let’s be real; cis people as an institutional authority have never taken us seriously).
For what it’s worth, in my experience the people who are actually involved in activist communities and who actually advocate for trans rights (both online and off, but especially offline) rarely pull identity-policing nonsense. The folks who do are typically just bullies behind a computer screen. In the trans groups I go to—which offer advocacy as well as support—never have any members trying to police the identities of other members, and the groups’ advice for people who are trying to figure things out is to first and foremost say that there’s no right way to be transgender.
Q:I'm a sophomore, but I just learned in Senior pictures they have guys wear this weird tearaway suit top and a drape for the girls to make it look like a dress. I'm not out yet and they /make/ you take your senior picture and I don't know what to do?
I have heard of schools in the United States getting in legal trouble for forcing students to wear certain kinds of clothing for senior photos and etc, but I’m not sure where you’re from or if causing a legal battle is possible for you. It’s helpful to get your parents on your side, however, and this can be done without necessarily coming out to them. Has anyone else who’s been in this situation have any advice for Anon?
Q:Re: anon who wants boy clothes. Some points you can bring up: Women's clothes tend to be more expensive. Men's pants have useable pockets. Men's clothes are generally more structurally sound. And if you have to, bust out the "men's shirts look better on my chest" excuse.
Q:Speaking of guy's clothes... any tips for looking a little better in them? Clothes found in the men's section tend to look awkward on FtM's who haven't transitioned.
Personally, I’ve had the most success with buying clothing that fits comfortably. It depends entirely on your preferences and how certain clothing fits on you, so experimenting by trying on different outfits in the store can be helpful!