Q:Les love boat binders are better for smaller chested folk and underworks is Better for larger chested! Just a tip.
Q:I work behind a checkout and despite (usually) presenting as male at work, I rarely get clocked as such. I've been thinking (for that reason & for day-to-day reasons) of wearing a badge or pin that has my pronouns on it or... or something. Just a quick simple visual to point to whenever someone says "Ma'am". Do you know anywhere that might sell badges like that? Any suggestions for what, exactly the badge should say?
A friend of mine actually made some very cool pronoun buttons, which I think are really straight to the point and effective for that reason. (They came in different styles to reflect masculine/feminine gender presentations, too!) Here’s mine for an example:
Having the pronouns you use is typically enough, in my experience. You can also add “sir” or “Mr.” so people don’t call you ma’am. I’d also recommend using one that’s easy to read, for folks with vision or reading impairments (such as dyslexia). Alternatively, a male symbol (♂) can also communicate to cis people to use “he/him.”
Etsy has a lot of different designs that aren’t just buttons, though they might be a little more expensive. Buttons are relatively simple to make if you have access to a button-making machine, too (schools and businesses may have them, or crafty friends).
Q:Does it matter that I'm agender but want to keep my birth name of Hannah? I really love it even though it'd feminine.
it doesn’t matter really. use whatever name you like! if anyone tries to tell you you can’t have that name, they’re butts. it’s your name.
alright i think that’s enough about they as a singular pronoun, we’ll now go back to your regularly scheduled programming with nice stuff
Q:Hi, agender nb here in response to the person who said they don't respect those who use "they" as pronouns: Please keep in mind that "they" is a valid pronoun and is not just because someone IDs as more than one gender. I don't have any gender at all, but I have used both she and he and neither work for me. Both hurt. If you can't respect us, please educate yourself instead of judging us for being different than you.
Q:Same anon. They is not a single term an I have never once used it as such and I am a writer and have read hundreds of books. They is an improper term for a single person I think it's hurting the community by making us look foolish. NB people should choose the pronoun that makes them the least uncomfortable and act as which gender they feel the most like and that can change daily or even within the day as they like. Pants man me uncomfortable but I can't go to the store half naked now can I?
well, great for you. i’m going to stand by the english professors i’ve asked about it instead of a single writer. to me it more feels like you want to have an excuse to be disrespectful, more than anything. you’re forcing them to still be uncomfortable because YOU personally think that it makes them look foolish. maybe you think it’s informal, great for you. forcing people into binary genders that they do not feel that they belong to is pretty gross, if you ask me. androgyny exists.
i’ll reiterate: language changes all the time. in the sixteenth century, “bully” was a term of endearment. but no one today uses it like that, and now it means “rude person who likes to boss others around.” language will change at some time, and they’s been used as a singular pronoun since the 14th century anyway. go get mad at teenager slang or something.
Q:Thank you for defending non binary people. Ever since coming out, I've noticing I feel a lot more upset when people say thing about my identity not existing, so I appreciate it a lot.
it’s not a problem! i have at least 7 nb friends who use “they” as they feel more comfortable with it and as someone who identifies with a binary gender it’s not my place to say if they should feel comfortable or not.
Q:I'm trans FtM and I just can't help not respecting anyone who decided to use they as a pronoun. Just because you feel like more than one gender doesn't mean you get to be more than one person. I think things like that are part of what makes people think that being trans is "just a phase" because of stupid shit like referring to oneself as they. What does everyone else think?
as another FTM, they can be used in a singular tense. language changes. they does not mean more than one person explicitly, and they are not more than one person. they’re simply a person.
haven’t you used they to refer to someone? for example
"where’d sam go?"
"they went to the store"
"how’s jen doing?"
"they’re doing well"
still grammatically correct. still makes sense. just because people think nb people who use pronouns other than “he” and “she” are disgracing other people forget other gendered pronouns besides he and she equivalents exist in many other languages as well, and other cultures recognize them as well.
i personally think that the excuse that “they isn’t grammatically correct as a singular pronoun” is ridiculous. it is indeed both singular and plural.
nb people aren’t hurting you, but the ideology that nb people can’t use a pronoun that’s been used as a singular pronoun for quite some time now probably is hurting them as a group. would you rather them use pronouns that make them uncomfortable?
Q:So I'm agender and I'm looking for a name change, because I don't like when people assume I a am girl because of my name. Im really struggling with finding something that feels natural. Can you and followers post some gender neutral names? I kind of want a name that leans more toward a nickname, but I want to see regular names too. Thanks if you can help! I'm just working to make myself feel more comfortable within myself.
let me make you a list, followers can chime in tho! i’ll be probably posting lots of short names that are generally used like nicknames rather than full names but i’ll include those too since you asked!
if the readmore on this ask doesn’t work i’m gonna shove a whole roll of bubble tape in my mouth omfg
Q:Hello! This is UglyGerm again and I'm over whelmed at the followers, likes, and reblogs I've gotten as of late and I can only say thank you so much for advertising and reblogging my image! I'm so grateful!
No problem! I’m glad to hear that your work’s getting attention! :D