Q:I wish that shit like this wouldn't happen within the community, but thanks for standing up for us, it means a lot. -a very disheartened nb person (who uses "they/them" almost exclusivly)
Unfortunately, the trans community is pretty splintered on certain issues. We need to have a more unified front if we want to get anything done. I hope you feel better soon, anon!
Q:yo singular "they" has been part of English literally since Chaucer, just like "you" was originally plural only and is now both singular and plural. Nobody thought it was ungrammatical until the 19th century or something. People who tear their shirts about how ungrammatical it is not only have their priorities fucked, but also don't have a clue what they're talking about.
Language is something that evolves and changes over time, and there’s always going to be someone who takes issue with it, even if their argument makes no sense (as in that anon’s case). I’m of the opinion that if someone’s happiest and most comfortable being called a certain way, we should always call them by the name/pronouns they say to use. It isn’t difficult and it makes someone feel comfortable, so what’s the big deal?
Q:Come on now, just google search "singular they." There's even a wikipedia article on the usage of it, legitimacy of the usage, and the evolution of it. That anon might just be a troll, anyone can find dozens of results supporting the usage of "singular they." It's not even an objection of grammar at that point, if you're that adamant against it's usage, you obviously have an issue with nonbinary people rather than with "speaking correct English." Don't mask your bigotry, anon.
Q:Hey, wanted to chime in against this supposed trans person who finds it okay to disparage other trans people for not being the same as them. Their [oops just grammatically used they correctly as a single pronoun look at that] claim that pronouns other than he/she will hurt the community is frankly BS. Disparaging others for their pronouns/misgendering them only makes cis people think this is an okay thing to do (newsflash its not) ALL gender identities & pronouns are valid.
I absolutely agree with you! All trans people deserve to have their pronouns respected, no matter what, and by respecting each other we can build a better community.
Q:So does it still make me agender if I'm semi ok with having breasts and a vagina as well as letting my parents still call me their daughter? I feel like it doesn't since I'm semi ok with my body. I have dysphoria sometimes
Of course! Your gender identity is not defined by how you feel about parts of your body, or how you feel about what other people call you. There are tons of nonbinary/agender people who use binary pronouns (like he/him or she/hers) for convenience or because they’re comfortable with them, and it doesn’t make their gender identity more or less legitimate.
Q:Les love boat binders are better for smaller chested folk and underworks is Better for larger chested! Just a tip.
Q:I work behind a checkout and despite (usually) presenting as male at work, I rarely get clocked as such. I've been thinking (for that reason & for day-to-day reasons) of wearing a badge or pin that has my pronouns on it or... or something. Just a quick simple visual to point to whenever someone says "Ma'am". Do you know anywhere that might sell badges like that? Any suggestions for what, exactly the badge should say?
A friend of mine actually made some very cool pronoun buttons, which I think are really straight to the point and effective for that reason. (They came in different styles to reflect masculine/feminine gender presentations, too!) Here’s mine for an example:
Having the pronouns you use is typically enough, in my experience. You can also add “sir” or “Mr.” so people don’t call you ma’am. I’d also recommend using one that’s easy to read, for folks with vision or reading impairments (such as dyslexia). Alternatively, a male symbol (♂) can also communicate to cis people to use “he/him.”
Etsy has a lot of different designs that aren’t just buttons, though they might be a little more expensive. Buttons are relatively simple to make if you have access to a button-making machine, too (schools and businesses may have them, or crafty friends).
Q:Does it matter that I'm agender but want to keep my birth name of Hannah? I really love it even though it'd feminine.
it doesn’t matter really. use whatever name you like! if anyone tries to tell you you can’t have that name, they’re butts. it’s your name.
alright i think that’s enough about they as a singular pronoun, we’ll now go back to your regularly scheduled programming with nice stuff
Q:Hi, agender nb here in response to the person who said they don't respect those who use "they" as pronouns: Please keep in mind that "they" is a valid pronoun and is not just because someone IDs as more than one gender. I don't have any gender at all, but I have used both she and he and neither work for me. Both hurt. If you can't respect us, please educate yourself instead of judging us for being different than you.