What would your 10-year-old self say if they saw you now?
[“ça, cette chose, monstre, elle-il”
"Merci d’être tout ce que je voulais devenir"
"Vous êtes si courageux"
Que dirait votre moi de 10 ans s’il vous voyait maintenant ?]
Q:Am I crazy for wanting to keep my birth name even though I'm out as a trans male. I really like how it's spelled plus the lead male in gone with the wind has the same exact name! -Ashleigh My full name is only for formal use. Socially I will always prefer Ace.
Absolutely not! It’s your name and if you like your birth name, it’s your right to keep using it!
Q:i dunno if i'm too late for the neutral name thing, but i was born with the name charlie and it tends to be neutral!
Q:To the agender name: If you like Charlie, take that name. I got a new question: I'm no native english speaker and wasn't aware that Charlie is a gender neutral name. Is it really, or is there a tendency to interprete it as a male name? Is there a list with neutral names somewhere?
For what it’s worth, I’m a native English speaker and I also was under the impression that Charlie is interpreted as a mostly male name. I think it’s used as a female name, but rarely. The “gender” of names change a lot over time, plus location factors in as well—for instance, before the novel Shirley was published (which had a female main character), Shirley was most often used as a male name in Victorian England. It was only until after its publication that it was used for girls (or, at least, DAFAB babies).
Generally, baby name websites have a little gender indicator next to names in a list. If it can be used for both I’m pretty sure the symbol is usually a little purple or grey circle. So those websites can be useful for finding neutral names, too!
Q:And Jay! Or JJ!
Q:To the anon: The name Jacke is also neutral.
Q:also grayson is spock's mother's maiden name i just wanted to point that out goodbye now
Pfft, thank you for that tidbit of information.
Q:To the agender anon: Jesse would be a good one! Jade, Joss, Jude, or Juno would be others that are somewhat close.
Q:To the agender anon: While a name close to the one you were given at birth may help people around you adjust to your lack of gender, you don't need to take a name that you feel doesn't describe you. Take care of yourself first!
Great point! Also, for what it’s worth, another person suggested “Grayson” as a name to use.