Q:Re: not transitioning. I'm also not transitioning! It's for a variety of reasons, but mostly because I don't feel the need. I usually don't feel enough dysphoria to warrant surgery, and being genderqueer, I don't want some of the side effects of hormones. But I wanted to say you're not alone, and if you want to talk, my askbox is always open.
Q:For many reasons (mainly for my bad health, personal and religious beliefs), even though I found about being transexual, I've decided no to do the transition or take any kind of hormone but it seems that even trans people don't take really seriously who decides not to do it. So I wonder if you know someone who also decided no to do it, anyone that could share their experience with me, I think that would help me a little....
You deserve to have your identity taken seriously! The folks who aren’t respecting you are not only being discriminatory, but cruel as well. Ultimately, it’s your choice whether or not to medically transition, and whether or not you transition should never, ever matter when it comes to your gender identity. Anyone who thinks that someone needs to go on HRT or have surgery in order to be “truly” trans* or “truly” fit their gender ID is being classist, ableist, and cissexist as well; there’s no reason to listen to them or take their words seriously.
If there’s anyone else in a similar situation to Glameater here, please consider sharing your experience.
Q:i'm not sure what i am, but i know i'm not what i was assigned at birth.. i lived that way for so long and spent it all depressed and in pain. i'm young, and i don't think anyone would believe me if i came out as anything... besides, what if i find out afterwards that i was confused and i'm actually something else?
I think this is a very common fear of a lot of people who are thinking about transitioning. My only advice would be to take things one step at a time at your own pace; eventually, you’ll figure out what you need to do. The important thing is to think about yourself with regards to transitioning; don’t ever transition (or not transition) to please anyone else.
For what it’s worth, though, it’s very common for people to not be believed when they come out as trans* no matter what age they are. To use an example, I know a trans man who is in his 50s, been taking T for years, had top surgery, and his family still thinks he’s going through a “stage.” The important thing is realizing that it’s your identity, and that only you can decide or figure out what it is. Best of luck, anon; I hope things go well for you!
Q:whenever I'm sad or scared or feel really alone, I go to this blog and it helps me not feel so bad anymore... thanks for being here !
not a problem, anon!!! we’re glad we help you feel safer. uvu)b
Hey, I’m putting together a documentary theater project on nonbinary young people. I’m looking for nonbinary people under 25 to do brief text chat interviews with over Skype or Chatzy. These interviews will be incorporated into the text of a play that will increase nonbinary visibility. Could you possibly publish this post on your blog and tell people interested in participating to contact me?
Hey folks, if you’re interested in participating, be sure to contact kayla-bird!
Q:I’m a transman. I’m pre-everything but in plan on changing that as soon as I can. I sometimes feel like I’m not taken seriously because I don’t like any body hair, I shave everything, and like wearing eyeliner sometimes. Anyone else like that too?
You keep doing you, Anon! If it makes you happy and confident, or something you just enjoy doing, you’re under no obligation to cater to those cissexist notions that trans men shouldn’t shave or wear eyeliner, or other types of “feminine” things, too!