Q:The latest time I came out to my mother, I was getting fed up with a line of Female-Centric emails she had been sending. I ended up sending her a few links to websites with information about being neutral-gendered and a review I had written (complete with picture of me!) for one of my binders. I think that helped show her that I was actually exploring these options and taking this seriously. Since then, she's been working hard to use the proper pronouns and terms for me.
Anonymous
Proving that you take transitioning/your identity seriously definitely helps. My parents only realized that when they noticed that I was hungrier because I was either skipping lunches/eating a sandwich from home for lunch to save money for top surgery and T.
Q:in response to phantompride15; I presume you've already told her some things in person. With my mum I sat down and wrote a 4-page email telling her pretty much everything (in time-line form) and describing how I felt about everything. This worked well with me because I could describe every stage of transition so far and describe how it felt so it helped her get an idea of what was going through my mind and 'prove' I had really thought it through.
Q:Can I ask for help? How do I get my mom to understand that I'm her son; not her daughter?
The best suggestion I can give you is, if she’ll sit down and listen to you, describe how it makes you feel when she refers to you by the wrong name and pronouns (I’m assuming that she’s doing this). Let her know why it hurts you or makes you feel uncomfortable. Talking about that discomfort and dysphoria can be extremely hard, since it’s a personal think that’s difficult for cisgender people to understand. She may begin to sympathize and make an effort to call you by the right name and pronouns, though this is a transition of sorts for parents as well, and old habits die hard and they can be pretty emotional.
Obviously you know your mother better than I do; think about what sort of person she is and how you can best appeal to her and get her to listen.
Does anyone else have any advice for this type of issue?
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Q:I saw a thing that The Levamentum Project is starting a Magazine and are taking submissions (for a small fee of course) for it. Idk if this is the right place to ask, but do any of you know if you can submit comics to it? I would love to have a comic strip published in a Trans* only magazine. Thanks
Anonymous
I hope that their magazine is successful, because that’d be really cool! Judging by their post on the magazine, it seems like comics would be accepted because of the “or whatever” bit there.
Q:Could anon possibly have been talking about "transcendental meditation" which while having the prefix "trans" does not actually have much to do with being transgender?
Anonymous
Q:A friend of mine, who is a trans woman, was asking me about some kind of trans* meditation. She's not very internet-savvy, and I'm not sure how to describe what she was asking me about, but apparently there's some sort of meditation for people who are transitioning, and need to let go of their old selves. I tried looking it up, but I couldn't find much information. Does anyone here have any idea what I'm talking about? ~ Mel
Anonymous
I’m not personally familiar with that, but perhaps someone else is? Anyone?
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